Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Does marriage kill love?

Does love die after marriage? I know this is not a new question at all, it's just a question that has been on my mind almost all my life, and I never found a convincing answer so far. I feel like the married couples start hiding something from us, the single ones, they ask us to join them in that institution, but many (and I insist on many) look sad, look unhappy, look unsatisfied, and that is not an attractive invitation if I may say so.

So I come here today on my blog to try and understand, whether love is killed by the institution of marriage or does it perhaps transform into something else?

One day, the wife is the hottest woman on earth (after Angelina Jolie, Liv Tylor, Megan fox and Kate Hudson of course) but years later, she gets pregnant and has this huge belly in front of her and an even huger butt (I know I will look like that, you - the unknown - be warned); so will the way the husband looks at his wife change? 

One day he used to stare her in the eyes and tell her: "You have no competition, you are the best thing that ever happened to me, I can't live without you, bmout fike

However, will her having to take care of her kids, house, work, obligations, etc.. at a later stage in life become un-sexy, unattractive, uninteresting, un-challenging for him?

Does her lack of time to put on a sexy dress, watch her fitness, follow up on top gear episodes, challenge her emotions and intellectualism with new things and hobbies, or for example write (something he admires her for) put her in this position where she is no longer: THE ONE for him. You know, that woman that completely satisfies his existence?

Will marriage kill love? Is there a way to sustain this love, or to transform it into something different, yet beautiful? Or is it a lost cause, and people who would like to preserve love should avoid getting married?

p.s. Of course scenario can be vice versa on gender here.

p.s.s. I will still be locking this blog, I am just too lazy to do it, yet!


Tuesday, December 08, 2009

Why I am not married yet!

Conversation #1:
-"So..." he looked at my left hand ".. are you married?" He asked
-"Nop, I'm not!" I answered
-"Why?" He asked

I stared at him for 3, 4 seconds and replied: "Why are you wearing a flannel?"

That was a real conversation I had with a guy I knew back at school, and yes he was wearing a flannel! (I believe I had more right asking him about his indecency - i.e. wearing a flannel to pecha kucha night, then him asking me why I'm not married yet)

Conversation #2:
-"Hey lilo!" mwah mwah "missed you so much!" hugs.. then he looked at my left hand, then right hand, then he said: "Not married? nor engaged?"
-I answered "No!" with a smile on my face. These were two guys I knew years back during the metal scene. These two were the last persons I thought would ask me such a question!

Conversation #3:
-"I thought you were married ya 7abibte!" The cleaning lady said
-"Oh, because it's a big house?" (it's 3 bedrooms and I live alone in it, so I assumed she calculated the beds)
-"No no... but .. because you're what, 25? I thought you were married that's why!" She continued, insinuating that 25 is a bit old to be still single
-"Oh noooooooo, I am not 25! I'm 29!" (I am still 28, still got 2 weeks, but wanted to rub it in her face!)

Conversation #4:
(post edited, I just remembered this conversation!) That was summer 2007.
- "How old are you? 26? You should be married already!" - Cousin's husband said
- "hmmm... don't get it, why?" I innocently asked.
- "You've got only like what... 10? 11 years where you can have children!!" He continued

And then you should've seen my face! My biological clock was ticking, only 11 years, how will I make it? how will I get married, have intercourse, get pregnant and have a child within 11 years? This is just too little... god *I cried*.. god please, have mercy... (Ok, no I didn't do that, my brother actually jumped in and told him to f*ck off)

Conclusion
I am still single, I am 29 years old, the reason why I am not married (answering the people who look at me with pity in their eyes 'cause am still single) is (pick your favorite):
- I am just butt ugly
- I burp and fart and that ain't lady like!
- I am a lesbian
- I nag too much that nobody wants to marry me
- I can't have children
- I am abnormal
- I am so f*ckin' stupid and boring, even zuzu ibba doesn't wanna marry me
- Nobody ever proposed
- Nobody loves me
- I am too smart and too pretty and too sexy that many men feel intimidated by me and can't handle me.
- I was waiting for you all my life.
- In reality the guy I love died, a dragon came and bit his head off


Seriously, what do people expect from me to say when they ask me "why aren't you married yet?"